The World Wide Cattle Show

Look ...

I am not speaking about the four legged kind of cattle show, I am speaking about the very available two-legged meat market out their that wets every fantasy of every man on this planet.

It's not that women don't do it; it's just that the men do it much more.

The day has come when internet dating is considered a legitimate way of meeting new people in the endless search for the right person. 

Chat rooms have replaced bar rooms, and internet dating sites and personal ads no longer have the "stigma" that they once did.

The internet dating "scene" is one of the easiest places for someone to cheat on their spouse or significant other, or to use the internet dating area as a place for promiscuity. The danger of long-distance internet romance is it is extremely easy for someone already involved with a partner to go out and cheat in a relatively safe (for them) environment... or just to play the field, so to say ....
The variety of woman is endless,  its like being in a chocolate store ... a taste from there, a taste from here ... never satisfied with the chocolate he has in hand

So at first he is not thinking he is risking anything. He thinks he's passing time. But as with any cheap thrill once you start you want more and more. Like potato chips. 

Most men will slip down that slippery slope to infidelity, ruined marriages, broken families, btoken hearts like an endless rope behind them .... They will post pics, exchange emails and even phone calls hoping for a real life meet up with their Internet fantasy girl. 

Get real.

• The best predictor of future behavior is relevant past behavior.
•  What do you predict? If your partner has cheated on you repeatedly and now swears he/she will stop, what are the chances that this is true? You can't change what you don't acknowledge. Isn't there a point at which you say, "I deserve better. 
•  He/She may not have any boundaries, but I do. And my boundaries say, 'You either treat me with integrity, dignity and respect or you don't treat me at all'?"

This is not your fault.

• Stop beating yourself up about this. 
•  You have got to know that this has nothing to do with you. 
•  You are not the one who made the decision to break your commitment to your partner and cheat. You have nothing to do with your partner making the immature, inappropriate, self-destructive choice to turn away from you to someone else.

Assess your commitment level.

• You can either handle being vulnerable with your partner again or you can't.
•  And if you can't, you need to get out of this relationship and move on.
• And if you can, then you need to let him/her earn the trust back and start putting this relationship together again.

Consider the consequences.
 

• You do have responsibility here for what you do next. 
• You have to make a decision about whether or not justice is best served by allowing your partner to re-earn your trust, or if it's better not to subject your family any longer to the current situation.

Decide if you can choose to forgive.

• Forgiveness is a choice.
• It doesn't mean what your partner did is OK. 
• How much you trust your partner is in part about what your partner does, and in part a function of whether you have confidence to handle it if he/she disappoints you.
• If you find out that he/she strays again, can you handle that?

If you can't forgive, let go.

• When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences. 
• If you continue to throw this in your partner's face, you will eventually run him/her off.
• Ask yourself if this is going to be a life sentence for your partner.
• Can you heal from this and forgive? If not, don't continue to live in anger and/or be with someone who causes you pain.